Child divorce and dating
Most middle-years children need some time to adjust to their parents' separation before their mother or father begins having new romantic interests.In general, a good guideline is about a six-month wait from the time you separate from your spouse to the time you start to date, although dating will often occur sooner.
“To move forward, I had to be whole emotionally, financially, mentally, and spiritually.
Others are still emotionally married after the divorce is final.” Dena Roché started dating while waiting for her divorce papers to come through.
“It helped, because I got to see what 'normal' looked like,” Roché says.
There is also a list of questions at the end of this article to ask yourself before introducing a new person to your children. When in session with me, this is how the seven-year-old boy reacted to meeting his mom’s “friend”: This child had only been aware of his parents’ final decision to divorce for four or five months, and yet he was already confronted with one of his greatest fears.
I once worked with one child whose Mom told me that she was not introducing her boyfriend to her children as a boyfriend, only as a friend. When you consider dating after a divorce, and especially before you introduce your child or children to a new partner, there are some very important factors you should evaluate. Let’s all agree to treat them with the love, respect and caring that they deserve, especially during the divorce process.
Take your time; it is important to proceed with confidence in your choices.