Dating reason selfish
I also don’t want to devote myself solely to her, even though I know she’s looking for a committed relationship.
If I’m afraid to be open (read: selfish) about my wants, I’m completely misleading her. You never see me, and I’m supposed to totally give up my schedule when you’re around.
When you’re in love, it’s easy to overlook or make excuses for your partner’s negative qualities. Every time you fight, you’re always the first one to say sorry — even if it wasn’t your fault.
After all, no one is perfect and he’s bound to have some less desirable traits because we all do. If his reaction to every single argument/disagreement is to try to de-escalate it as quickly as possible without even solving the issue because he really can’t deal with your feelings, he’s selfish AF. You apologize for stuff you didn’t even do because you know that’s the only way to end the argument.
Before you roll your eyes and click over to the next best thing on the Internet, let me assure you this article is, ultimately, about sex. In case you’ve spent the last century under a rock, Ayn Rand was a devote capitalist, playwright and author who wrote two very famous novels, "Atlas Shrugged" and "The Fountainhead."Her work has been extensively debated, reviled and celebrated. He spoke about it in general terms, but for this article, I'm going to relate how being selfish applies to dating. We're all operating with our own best interests in mind, and anyone who vehemently declares he or she isn't selfish is essentially lying through his or her teeth.
He tries to act it’s because he wants to take care of you, but you know that’s not true. You’re a great girlfriend, always surprising him with little things and going that extra mile to make sure he’s happy. And no, that one time he remembered to put the toilet seat down doesn’t count.
Honestly, he thinks he treats you like a queen and he has no idea why you don’t see that — that’s the sad part.
At the same time, I’ll attract the woman who wants something more casual.
Someone like a flight attendant is a great example, as she’s always traveling for work.
If your boyfriend would prefer to spend his one free night playing video games alone or drinking beer and watching sports with the guys, there’s an issue. Where you guys go to dinner, what time you leave, who you hang out with, the list goes on and on.