Dating rituals loke
Couples used the engagement period to save up enough money for marriage.
Although going steady meant that men were not to date other women, societal expectations of the time dictated that men could freely sow their "wild oats," while women were to remain virgins until married.
The actual experience of dating in China can also be somewhat different.
The basics are the same—people are people everywhere—but there are still a few differences regarding culture and social cues to note.This is a big part of why dating is often taken so seriously.Chinese young people often feel like they don’t have the time to “play the field” that their Western counterparts are afforded by society.However, the expense of these dates eventually led to the popularity of group dating, which was less costly and also eased the sexual pressure associated with one-to-one dates.
Couples declared their intentions to be exclusive by "going steady," whereby a young woman would wear a love anklet and her boyfriend's fraternity or club pin--known as "pinning." After a few years of going steady, the couple would become engaged, and the engagement could last for a year or more.
Because of China’s rigorous college entrance examination, dating is rarely tolerated among high school students. That doesn’t mean that Chinese teens don’t have high school crushes or even relationships (mostly secret ones).