Decoding mixed dating signals
It sucks, but when someone shows varying levels of interest in you, most of the time they simply aren’t into you at all.
At best they’re psyching themselves up, trying to make a good faith effort before dismissing you outright to give you a “fair shot.” Who knows?
If you have three or five or twenty of these signs—you planned on getting dinner but she left after drinks; she kept checking the time; she left your text on “read” for 3 days while she was posting nonstop on Instagram about being bored at work; she went in for a hug when you went in for a kiss—then, yeah, it’s not working. If she doesn’t respond at all, you may have missed a couple of the earlier signs that she wasn’t into it, and you should watch out for them in the future. Closure doesn’t really exist; “closure” usually amounts to getting someone to admit that they didn’t like you, which is weird.
Do men actually send us mixed signals when they’re afraid to tell us the truth, or a lie? As a woman, this is extremely hard to digest because I have based all the relationship uncertainties on the fact that guys give mixed signals. If you have to decode a guy’s signals, I think it’s pretty clear it’s time to bail.