Exhausted from dating
Being tired from spending time with your partner is not a good feeling.
But how do you know if you're being totally consumed by your relationship?
Third date should-we-have-sex tango, why-aren't-they-texting-me-back anxious group message discussion with your friends. While dating can be a very exciting period where you’re not only meeting new people and learning new things about what you want and what you can’t stand, it can also be exhausting to continuously go on a string of bad, or not-so-bad dates without much success.
Check Out: Emotional Vampires: Dealing With People Who Drain You Dry , , Amazon"Your partner might be draining you emotionally when you spend an unhealthy amount of time focused on intrusive thoughts," psychologist Nikki Martinez tells Bustle.Relationships must be a give and take situation, and if it doesn't feel that way for you, you'll feel exhausted from your partner all the time. FYI, Bustle may receive a portion of sales from products purchased from this article, which were added independently from Bustle's sales and editorial departments after publication.If you're single, and have been for quite some time, you likely are starting to get bored with dating. Happy hour drinks after work, coffee date on Sunday. And you’re so tired of dating you could scream at the message pop-ups on your phone.She defines these as the types of thoughts that completely take over your airspace, as it were, at all hours of the day and night: "When you are thinking about what they are doing, who they are with, what they are doing with this person, or what the nature of this relationship is — this can be draining."This isn't the fault of your partner, but an issue that you likely brought into the relationship from your past, which is good and bad.
Good because it means you can work on it on your own, but also bad because it's all on you, and you'll take it where ere you go. When we feel alive, we feel energized." This extends to your personal relationships."[When] you are usually able to get through your day, and now need to spend the entire weekend recovering, it may be worth exploring who is sucking up your energy." If signs point to your partner, it's time to make a change."If you are emotionally overwhelmed by the requests of your partner, you have the feeling — 'Now it’s too much,'" Salama Marine, psychologist and online dating expert for dating website Elite Singles, tells Bustle.