But all that pales in comparison to sitting across from a person for two hours that you can’t wait to get away from– and that’s what first dates end up being more often than not. While some of the awkwardness will be gone by the second date, that doesn’t mean you’re 100 percent comfortable with this new person.At least it doesn’t mean you would choose him over a night at home with a new episode of You’d rather spend an evening alone than go on a date.Your date may have a low need for social contact, psychologist Jonathan Cheek tells Elizabeth Svoboda in Psychology Today.Socializing can be exhausting for introverts, whereas quiet, alone time can revitalize them. If you love going out every night and meeting lots of people, but you're dating a loner, you will need to find some middle ground that both of you are happy with.This is completely normal behavior for a loner, and it doesn't mean he's not enjoying himself.He may get a lot of pleasure simply from observing what's going on at the party.Just like you prefer to recharge by spending time alone, other people prefer to be around people.
At a party, he may prefer to sit quietly in the corner, rather than mingling, dancing or entertaining others.
The longer you date, the more time you’re expected to spend together.
Once you get past the awkward getting to know each other stage, you’ll be more comfortable spending time with him.
No matter how much you want it, you probably won’t be compatible with someone who has to be super social all the time, but there’s really nothing you can do about that.
Courtney Hardwick By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada.You still do it because you truly don’t want to end up alone, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t a struggle sometimes. Since you probably don’t go on dates very often, when you do decide to go on one, it’s a big deal.