Stop being accommodating in relationships
Perhaps you became the organizer of all of the office birthday parties, because no one else would do it.
Or, maybe you picked up the slack yet again, and ended up staying late for a colleague who begged you to help him to finish a project at the last minute. And, let’s be real: There definitely will be times when you have to do things at work that you would rather not.
But once you step up and say something, you may find it’s a total non-event.
In other words, when you say “no,” the other person simply says “OK,” and that’s the end of it.
A good rule of thumb is to consider, “If this request was being made of someone else, what would I think?
” If you start to feel protective, then it’s a sign you might be getting close to being taken advantage of.
Sadly, families are not immune to the poisonous lashings of a toxic relationship.
At first, you may feel uncomfortable setting boundaries because it’s new for you.
However, to stop being taken advantage of, you’ve got to learn to treat yourself with that same level of respect.
Recognize your own worth and be willing to be an advocate for yourself.
People pleasers tend to be very compassionate when it comes to others.
They frequently anticipate others’ needs and do their best to try to prevent the people around them from feeling uncomfortable.
But, it could also be that they’re simply used to you pulling the extra weight, and you’ll need to wade through the conflict.