The rules for dating
If this sort of backwards thinking makes you want to throw the book across the room, I don’t blame you.
However, Fein and Schneider do come up with some worthwhile nuggets of advice, particularly when it comes to interacting with men online and through texting.
Too often we place importance on things that simply hold no meaning. Be you—leave your representative at home on your date.
Waiting for them to approach you is no more significant than if you were to approach first. All too often we are afraid of making a bad impression or their not liking us we end up putting on a front when we are on a date. There are no rules for when or whom should contact after a date.
, a revamped version of their classic, updated with advice for women dating in today’s texting, Facebooking, instant messaging culture.
If he really is yours, everyone in the real world will already know it. Being sad or mad on Facebook is not attractive and makes it seem like you’re seeking attention.But waiting a few hours to respond won’t kill him and will build his anticipation.And if you wait, you give the impression that you are a busy chick—working, running errands, going to the gym, or doing whatever it is that you do.The authors have a more exact timetable for messaging that correlates with your age range (ugggh), which seems too formulaic. While that satisfies your need for instant gratification, I agree with the authors that it makes sense to save conversation for an in-person encounter.
By resisting the urge to text him for hours, you give him something to look forward to and don’t reveal too much, too soon.After that first exchange, the authors suggest taking at least a half hour to respond to each message.