Unspoken dating rules
Just clue in your hubby matter-of-factly: Try, "I knew it was only a matter of time before old boyfriends came out of the woodwork on Facebook. "We give advice because we're trying to be helpful, but it's seen as criticism when we offer too many corrections," says Harriet Lerner, Ph D, clinical psychologist and author of .
I got a friend request from one and ignored it." Or, "I saw my ex in the mall today. This goes for everything from your husband's outfit choices to how he deals with a work issue.
"or telling him, "I could use a hand cleaning out the pantry." These requests will foster the idea that you're teammates. "Leave it there, and respect each other's opinion," she says. Choose your battles, but don't stifle your feelings.Double dates can be the perfect way to have both date night and a social night at once.Since you’re usually balancing life between your relationship and your friendships anyway, finding a couple you and your partner love to double date with can be a huge relief if you know how to act. Try to not let somebody “take one for the team” on this double date."There's going to be toothpaste globs here and Post-it notes there; that's human nature," says Dr. "You have to be able to say, 'this isn't important.'" Or if it is, speak up.
"Tell your partner why it bothers you and that you'd like to work on a solution," suggests Dr. You'd be surprised what you could learn about each other.Don’t talk too much about all the trips you have planned and the kids you want to have together etc.