Why is dating so complicated
As it turns out, I've grown more confused about seeking a potential mate as well as disgusted with myself for being judgmental throughout the entire process (even if these sites facilitate judgement).
At its core, Online Dating is designed to exist as a process of natural selection where only the ridiculously hot and wealthy survive. You get elaborate descriptions of the individuals and a score sheet to see how you'd match up with someone, along with pictures of everything from men and their favorite pet (from my experience, usually cats) and a drunken night with friends.
These kind of photos (or lack thereof) make things socially awkward for interested parties.
The people who don't provide photos often write in their profile “If you're really interested in me, a photo won't matter” or “I can provide a photo if you request one.” So if you request a photo and are not initially attracted, you seem shallow.
Let me preface this by saying I've never winked at anyone in my entire life (although the occasional involuntary eye twitch might confuse onlookers).
I feel like “winks” (a virtual gesture — meaning someone is winking at you in the vortex of computer space) are the ultimate display of passive aggression.
It might’ve only happened once, but now they’re assuming that every relationship will end the same way, so they don’t even try. It wastes perfectly good time we could’ve spent with someone serious about us.
The same goes for body flex pics (men in the buff in the mirror — a double whammy! Not only does the guy look vain, but sometimes in the pose, downright goofy.
It could mean they want to be friends with you or date you or fuck you. You just have to guess what outfit would work the best and pray that you’re right.